Though behavioural scientists are still grappling with just what generally attracts men to married women while they ignore single ones, they nevertheless seem to agree that such relationships are due to lower expectations, pre-selected social value and the thrill of a taboo dynamic.
1). While married women make no demands for marriage, single ones often look for a long-term partner, cohabitation or marriage
2). Most married women who engage in affairs want a part-time connection without the heavy responsibilities of a real relationship
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3). Married women bring no shared bills to the relationship, i.e there is little expectation of financial support, deep integration into family life or daily accountability
4). That a married woman has already been chosen by someone else acts as social proof, making her appear more desirable and attractive to other men, i.e her exclusivity makes her the prize to win and winning the attention of such a woman who is already taken and is this perceived to have a high social value can serve as a powerful ego validation for the man pursuing her
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6). The hidden nature of the affair creates with a married woman creates a thrilling sense of danger and risk for the man chasing her
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7). The challenge of the chase in order to ‘taste’ the ‘forbidden fruit’ turns a simple interaction into an intense life adventure
8). Many men generally feel that married women display more patience, stability and calm communication from years of life experience compared to single daters
9). Being part time, a married woman demands less emotional investment, responsibility and long-term commitment.
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